Rebirth of Taoyuan Farming Notes

Chapter 107 Final Chapter

Qin Sitao felt that this period of rebellion in the past two lifetimes was really extremely precious.

For the first time, it made him seriously think about what is his own choice, what is spiritual weaning, read a lot of books on psychology, and understand what is the competition between parents and offspring.

Finally, through constant reflection and exploration, I slowly figured out what is the correct way to behave in the world, not only as children, but also as a lover, how to establish a healthy long-term relationship.

In the past, when he and Ye Muyuan were together, they would always worry about gains and losses, always maintain pessimistic thinking, and always lament that human nature is terrible.

If you have worries, you will involuntarily pay too much attention, will rack your brains to guess and speculate, and then fall into a vicious circle, in the name of love, quarrel to death, and emotional control.

Control and harm in the name of love, and in many cases are unconscious - giving too much love will also be a kind of regret.Whether it is a family relationship or a love friendship, never love so much that you lose yourself, it is not good for both parties.In other words, while loving, never forget that you and I should be independent people.

Independence refers to economic self-sufficiency on the one hand and spiritual integrity on the other.

Economic self-sufficiency is the foundation of everything.

And Qin Sitao felt that his greatest achievement in returning to the past was nothing more than this: even if he lost the Taoyuan space, he could still hold his chest up and say to himself: I can support myself, and my ability can allow me to recover after losing everything. Can live very well.

After leaving home, he took stock of the funds in hand. The manor near his hometown had basically stagnated, and it was too close to Qin Ma, so he would inevitably be supervised by her. Qin Sitao simply called the two soldiers and asked them to arrange shifts by themselves. Just keep an eye on the door, and arrange regular welfare guarantees to be credited into their accounts.

Qin Sitao dragged the things in the Taoyuan to his senior brothers to cash in. When faced with the questioning of them and his master and wife, he hesitated for a long time, and only vaguely said that family values ​​​​conflicted.The master stood by Qin Ma's side and tried to brainwash him. The master was silent for a long time, and only said one sentence: the road is one's own, no matter what, just don't regret it, and don't give up the skills you have learned.

After Pei Shu found out, she secretly told Qin Sitao behind her father's back, don't care about these old-fashioned ideas, although she Ye Gonghaolong is a rotten girl, but if she is a crooked man and then follows an innocent girl according to the arrangement of the elders in the family If she gets married, she will look down on him.

Qin Sitao smiled.

Yes, some things don't happen to me, so I won't have such a deep experience.

As people of the same generation, Qin Sitao and his teacher and niece found a clean coffee shop to chat for a day.There are some things that cannot be discussed with elders, classmates, and some friends.There are even some things that cannot be chatted with Ye Muyuan.

Unsatisfactory things in life are often □□, but it is no different from others.

But fortunately, Qin Sitao was still able to chat with Pei Shu, whether the parents thought they were loving, and whether there was any worry about the fickleness of people's hearts.

Qin Sitao said: "When you can support yourself, you will no longer have the feeling of powerlessness caused by the economic control of your parents. You will no longer be afraid of them saying things like, 'This is my family. Get out' or 'I won't recognize you if you do this again'. Finally, you have the ability to live on your own, and you can control yourself.

As long as your heart is firm enough, you can control your own life, isn't it great?It's not so cool now, because I'm worried that my parents will get into the horns.But, now, my life status will no longer have too many fluctuations due to other people's moods or disturbances. "

Pei Shu looked worriedly at Qin Sitao, who lowered his head and poked the cream on the coffee with a stirrer: "I understand what you mean. Be financially independent and spiritually independent, so that you can live the life you want instead of the life your parents want , but now, aren't you overcorrecting a bit."

Qin Sitao spread his hands when he heard the words: "In fact, if you look at the people around you, what more people lack is spiritual weaning. Adults, not seven or eight years old, still rely on their parents to make major life decisions, to decide What school do I take for the college entrance examination, what major do I study, what kind of industry will I pursue after graduation, and what kind of people will I spend my whole life with. This means that we are not weaned spiritually.

Most people of the parents’ generation have directly transitioned from their original family to their own reorganized family. Look at my parents, they have experienced earth-shaking social changes in the past few decades, but their concepts have solidified, and they refuse to Then adapt.Our parental generation will control our children as long as possible, and few of us are willing to really resist deprivation in the name of love.Too many people enter married families directly from their original families. Parents may be the only profession in the world that has no barriers to entry. They did not receive any training and education before taking up the job, and they became parents by instinct.I know they love me instinctively, and I love them instinctively, but I'm an adult, I'm an independent adult, and I don't want to be a marionette to live the life my mom wants.Like my mother, her thinking is fixed and she can't listen to my reasoning and ideas, so I simply don't bother. I should be filial, and filial piety is my principle. "

Pei Shu held her chin and sighed: "Then what are you going to do in the future?"

"You see, I am in the most ideal state of life right now. I have money and leisure. I want to see the world. I want to learn more about economics. I want to meet more people. If I have money, I want to see the world. I have learned medical skills, and I try to contribute some of the skills I have learned. Life and happiness, in my opinion, are experiences.”

"Then, where's Ye Muyuan?" Pei Shu asked.

"Please, everyone is an adult, it's impossible for one person to cling to another person to be a dodder. If so, I will look down on myself." Qin Sitao spread his hands with a smile.

"If you have money, you can hold your own thoughts and desires, and now you can ask for nothing from other people."

Qin Sitao stretched his waist: "No, people are social animals, and I still have a great need for emotional connection. Now that communication is so developed, face-to-face video communication is so convenient." Qin Sitao paused: "Besides, transportation It is very developed. Being independent from each other is not cutting off the relationship, but mutual respect, which makes the relationship between the two generations more harmonious. It is difficult for us to persuade our parents to change the way. Maybe there are too few such ideas in Chinese society. This is not what we need Do you work hard all your life? If you want to be a volunteer and work hard to be independent from your father, you will be like me."

"It's not just a matter of money. If my mother cries, makes trouble, and resorts to cruel tricks, I won't be able to hold back her tears when I see her."

Thinking of Qin Ma's hysteria, Qin Sitao had lingering fears in his heart: "I can't help you with this. Sometimes mental independence also means that you have to be ruthless, and you are even more ruthless to yourself."

"You work so hard, is it worth it for Ye Muyuan?" Pei Shu hesitated: "If one day..."

"I can't say whether I will stop loving him one day. The intimate relationship between people, even the relationship between parents and children, is full of changes. Enjoy now, You can only make yourself regret it.” Qin Sitao drank his coffee: “In short, the fundamental meaning of independence is that while you enjoy freedom, you also need to bear the consequences of your actions. Maybe you will encounter trouble, Maybe you will face hurt, maybe you will experience pain, even if you have no one to share with you, and no one will back you up to clean up the mess. As an adult, you have to bear all the consequences of the decisions you make. I believe I I can afford it. I have to catch a plane. I've grown up and I haven't been out of the country, so it's too late. It's a pity."

Pei Shu stood up and shook the car key in her hand: "I'll give it to you. Cheating the old has its benefits. It's easy, like a shortcut, but I still envy you for being able to be yourself."

Qin Sitao shrugged his shoulders: "If you occasionally help enlighten my parents, our family needs your new and new human thoughts. In a few years, domestic thoughts will definitely be freer, and I will definitely come back again."

Pei Shu laughed and patted Qin Sitao on the shoulder: "I know, you must be the unbeatable Xiaoqiang, Hu Hansan who can always make a comeback, worrying about you is better than worrying about others. My old lady has a lot of tossing and tossing, no matter what, economic freedom is like You let go of yourself, too."

"Don't tell my big brother that you want to learn from me. We will both let ourselves go. Your dad thinks that if I lead you and me badly, it will be even worse."

"Hey, it's not bad, whoever leads the bad, and one day he will learn to respect different ideas."

"If one day everyone can respect the existence of different ideas, this will be Taoyuan."

"It depends on the awakening and struggle of our generation."

"Ah."

There are so many unpredictable things in life, just like at this moment Qin Sitao didn't know how far Ye Muyuan, who was waiting for him on the other side of the ocean, could accompany him, just like Qin Sitao didn't know when or whether his parents would accept this filial and disobedient him It's like he doesn't know when he can truly reach a spiritual paradise, just like he doesn't know how long the Taoyuan space in his body can last, but in this life, he has been much luckier than so many people. Anyway, he will only have better expectations.