dhibooks Chapter 28 Marriage
Chapter 28 Marriage
Lawyer Mi used to specialize in divorce cases for two reasons: one is because divorce cases make the most money and the fastest, and the other is that in his eyes, there is no real right or wrong in divorce.A marriage that has survived to the point of divorce can only show that both of them have some problems, and he will not feel guilty about this kind of lawsuit.
Everyone in the office knows that my uncle is gay. Every time I go to the office, everyone from the front desk assistant to the immediate boss knows me. The first thing I say when we meet is always: Ah, Asher is here, Michelle I'm in his office.As a homosexual, Attorney Mi is doing well in the firm, and the female colleagues around him like to take him to lunch, talk about men, children, and relationships.
Lawyer Mi took on a new case a while ago. A couple who had been married for ten years were going to divorce. The husband proposed it on his own initiative. He felt that marriage was too stressful and there was no freedom, and he didn't want to be restrained any longer.The two quarreled in the office over the right to distribute a vase. The husband slammed the door and left, while the wife kept crying while covering her face.
The couple quarreled all day long, and the case didn't make much progress, so my uncle had to work overtime at night to catch up.I went to bring him dinner, my wife was sitting on the sofa crying, and lawyer Mi, a friend of women, sat helplessly by the side holding a tissue box in both hands. When he saw me coming in, he immediately stood up, walked over and hugged, "Asher, my dear, today how have you been?"
It was raining outside and I couldn't ride a bike. Driving in New York would definitely be blocked at this point. To save time, I came here by subway. I was squeezed all the way, and I was in a bad mood.Seeing his smiling face, he immediately became angry, and he was so angry that he was looking for trouble: why are you smiling, I am not good at all!I am not happy!
He leaned over to kiss me, took the bag in my hand, opened it, and sniffed hard, "It smells so good, you made Shanghai pork ribs and braised pork? There seems to be spaghetti the taste of"
“Creamy corn prawn spaghetti, your favorite flavor”
"Is it my mom's recipe? Does it have chips and bacon in it?"
"Added, a bag of farm-flavored potato chips, and a bag of pork bacon."
Lawyer Mi immediately felt better when he saw the food. He came up to me and gave me a kiss. He greeted his client, and the wife ate with us.An hour ago, he sent me a text message and said that there is a customer here today, and it is estimated that it will be very late. I am used to cooking a lot of dishes at night, so that I can eat lunch the next day. He asked me to bring an extra set of tableware , and bring them all together to eat.
The wife was also tired from crying, she was a little shy, she sat there with a blushing face, and was pulled over by her uncle enthusiastically to have dinner together.
The two divided the work to take out the food, put it on a plate, and set it up on a table.The wife looked at it embarrassingly, "I'm so sorry to bother you so much every time, or I'd better go first."
"Women's Friend" Attorney Mi held her down, "It's okay, I specially asked Asher to make an extra serving, stay and eat with us, I insisted on asking."
I handed over a meal along the way, "I don't know your taste, madam, I cook it according to Michelle's preference"
The wife said in surprise, "You cook all these dishes by yourself?"
Lawyer Mi showed pride on his face, "It's all made by my Asher, it's amazing!"
I gave him a blank look, "That's right, if you can't fry eggs like you, how can you live. You're so stupid", and handed him a meal.
He happily carried the plate, "It's all my favorite, Asher, you're so kind."
The wife looked very lonely, "I have lived with my husband for ten years, and now he doesn't even know what I like to eat, and every time he buys what he likes."
Lawyer Mi pointed at me, "I don't even remember what I like to eat, but he remembers it."
The wife envied: "You two have such a good relationship, how long have you been together?"
I did the math: "It's almost seven years."
She lowered her eyes and murmured, "It's been seven years... so good, so good"
Many people think that homosexuality will not last long. Many people know that my uncle and I have been together for so many years, and the first reaction is surprise: Wow, we have been together for so long?real or fake?Then they always ask, how did you do it, how can you be with one person for so long?Won't you get tired of being in it every day?
Lawyer Mi kissed me in public, and said cheerfully: "Actually, the time I spent with Asher was very short. When we first met, both of us had to go to school. He finished class every day, finished his homework in the library, and then went back home. Cooking at home. I didn’t participate in any club activities, I was very selfish and took up more than half of his most precious college time..."
"Now we all have to work, he has eight hours, I have ten hours, 24 hours a day, almost half of it is consumed in the company, and the remaining 12 hours after returning home have to be divided into seven or eight hours for eating and sleeping. Facing each other for hours, Asher has to spend an hour scolding me during these hours, and there are only 2 or 3 hours left to hug and kiss. Sometimes he has to go on a business trip, and he has to go on a business trip for a week or two. It’s been a long time since we saw each other. The two of us stay together for less than 60 days a year. My colleagues and I see each other for nine or ten hours a day, and the time we spend together is longer than the time we spend with Asher. How come Tired, it's too late to cherish."
Those words confused the people who eat melons with dog food.
I'm in finance, he's a lawyer, and both are busy.To live together is to learn to compromise and accommodate each other.I have relatively free working hours, and I can work at home. I always take my work home and read documents while cooking in the afternoon. If Attorney Mi has to go to court the next day, he will definitely live in the office the day before yesterday.I packed up the prepared dinner and drove there.The two ate and chatted together.After dinner, I went home to clean up, and he continued to work overtime.
Every year when New York Fashion Monday starts, I start to be busy. I work on a full-time job during the day, and carry a makeup case after work at night, running from show to show.Lawyer Mi doesn't know how to cook, and the food he cooks isn't delicious, so he calls directly to order takeaway.If I wanted to put on makeup that night, he would order takeaway to find me. The two of us had dinner in the makeup artist's studio.
Once I took over Zhanzi's job at night, and my uncle had to work overtime. Both of them were crazy busy. He called and ordered two takeaways, and one was delivered to my address.The little brother who delivered the food was still muttering to me when he got the things, your partner is too nasty, just order a food delivery, and we insist on attaching a little note of love to you, well, it’s in it, you take it easy Take it easy.
Open the lunch box, it's all my favorite food.
I almost forgot what I like to eat, just remember what he likes to eat.
Although Lawyer Mi specializes in divorce cases and has seen the ugly side of marriage, Uncle still wants to get married.Perhaps it is because he has dealt with many bad divorce cases that he knows and cherishes the aspect of maintaining relationships like the back of his hand.
I like to buy Apple computers, iPhones, iPads, and various Apple products. Every time a new one is released, I will definitely buy it.Little D always said that I am a prodigal, and you can afford to buy so many mobile phones with two hands?Also teach uncle, you don't care about him.
Lawyer Mi shook his head: Forget it, he doesn't have much to pursue, it's just such a hobby, if he wants to buy it, let him buy it.Not much money anyway.
Little D rolled his eyes: Just get used to him.
He smiled cheerfully: I should have spoiled him.
The single Wang Xiao D who was stuffed with dog food envied and hated at the same time: "He used to be very angry, but now he is spoiled by you and his temper is getting worse and worse."
Uncle opened his eyes wide: "Is there? I think he is very gentle. He has rarely gotten angry in the past few years. Maybe he is gentle with me alone."
Little D was overwhelmed by the dog food and choked on his face. He was completely defeated and fled.
The expenses of the two are not high, and the salary is not low. The only disadvantage is that we are currently single in our marriage status, and a large part of our salary and tax returns will be deducted.Colleagues in the same position are married and have children, and the tax withheld is at least 1 to 2% less than ours. With the same basic salary, after tax deductions, my colleagues have more than 9, and I only have 5 left. After deducting the project commission, my colleagues are 6 to 3 , I only have 4 to [-].
Lawyer Mi always used this matter to tease me: Why don't we just sign and get a certificate, and we can save tax money.
Continue to play the game and ignore him, convulsing: "Get married for that little tax money, what is the future? Is it a loss or not, I, you are so beautiful, your liver hurts."
I have been annoyed by him for a long time on this matter, and Xiao D and the boss also support Uncle and fight me every day.
Little D: You and Michelle have been tossing about for many years, forget about getting married, let him take your surname, Zhang.
Boss: Yes, Andrew and I will get married as soon as the same-sex marriage in California is passed. You two have been here for a few years, so what's the delay?
I'm a little speechless: Can our situation be the same?Now the whole of the United States supports same-sex marriage, and everyone is getting married. Same-sex marriage is no longer special. Two days ago, my uncle also accepted a case of divorce for a same-sex couple.It was because they could not get married before that they cherished their relationship. Now that the policy has been relaxed, everyone rushes to join in the fun and get married. They divorce after two years, which is really sick.
Little D: Didn't I say, you can die if you get married?Michelle earns so much, and the family has money, no matter how you think about it, you will not lose money. Even if you get divorced in the future and divide the property, you can still share half of the property in Michelle's family, and you will have no worries about food and drink in your next life.
She rolled her eyes: My family is also rich, and I earn a lot, so why do I have to get married.
"It's not just a matter of money, the relationship between you two can only be formalized with that piece of paper, otherwise you two legally bought a house together, two strangers who have no blood relationship or kinship. People." The boss said with lingering fear: "Before getting married, Andrew was often injured and went to the hospital. I was always stopped at the door and refused to let in because I was not his family member or blood relative. I was not qualified to sign for his operation. Not qualified to take him by the hand and walk him into the operating room before surgery. If, I'm just saying, if, Michelle is injured and he needs surgery, you can't sign for him because you have nothing to do with him legally, You can only watch him in pain, mad with anxiety, and there is nothing you can do."
I asked him: How was your wedding with the captain like?
The boss curled his lips: "We don't have a wedding at all. Andrew and I flew there in the early morning of the second day after we got married in California. We queued for six hours at the gate of the city hall to get the certificate and sign. We didn't even hold the wedding. We had no money." ah.".He drank the beer in one gulp, and continued with a smile: "After we came out of the city hall, neither of us spoke, we held hands tightly, and looked at the piece of paper together. It was just a piece of paper, and the wedding night was also a joke , spent in a cheap motel in California, bought a bottle of wine for 5 yuan, and drank it in a plastic cup...It was so miserable, it’s funny to think about it now.”
He patted me on the shoulder and persuaded: Asher, I know you are afraid of marriage, I was also afraid before, I was afraid that one day Andrew would abandon me and not want me anymore.Falling in love is hard, and marriage is even harder. If you never do it because you are afraid, you are too timid.
Me: I'm not sure, I just thought, why do two people have to get married when they are together?We are living very well now, why do we have to get married, some things, once marriage is involved, will change.
Little D: What are you struggling with?honestly.
I thought about it: I'm afraid, I'm afraid that if one day, he doesn't want me, what should I do.
Seeing that my expression was a little moved, the two of them knew that there was something going on, and even stepped up and started to encourage.
The boss waved his finger in front of my eyes and said: If one day Michelle doesn't want you, then he is the biggest fool in the world.
Little D also echoed: Even if you separate from him in the future, you will live well by yourself.You are not a fragile person.
Boss: You have been together like this for almost seven years. So many bad things did not separate you, how is marriage possible.
Little D: I know what you are thinking, you are afraid of losing him, love is a very scary thing, isn't it?
Me: Really, even after such a long time, I still feel afraid. The life I live is so comfortable and beautiful now, what if I mess it up one day, what should I do?
Boss: Maybe, but that Michelle...he'll forgive you no matter how bad you do it.
Me: Yeah, he always forgives me, he never chooses to take a step back first.
A few weeks later, a female colleague in the company happily announced at lunch that she and her boyfriend were engaged.Everyone celebrated one after another, and everyone sat together for lunch to hold a small celebration for that colleague.
Colleague A asked: "How long have you been talking with your boyfriend?"
The engaged female colleague said happily, "Less than a year, more than 10 months"
I couldn't help but interjected, "You two have only been dating for such a short time, so you're getting married now?"
This was obviously not pleasant, and the female colleague was upset: "So what, I have made up my mind, I want to marry him and be with him for the rest of my life. Time is not a problem at all."
Several other female colleagues also booed: "That's right, ten months has been a long time, to paraphrase a classic Beyoncé lyrics If you like it then you should a put a ring on it" (Many American women use this sentence to force marriage: If you like me, then wear it for me The ring, implying to urge her boyfriend to propose marriage quickly, what about the ink marks)
A young girl at the front desk asked me gossip: "Asher, are you married to Michelle?"
I shook my head, much to their amazement.
"You two aren't married?!" "Why aren't you married?" "Didn't you both buy a house together and live together?"
I wondered: "I like Michelle very much, but it doesn't mean we must get married." This answer stunned a group of female colleagues.The female colleague who got engaged asked: "But you have been together for seven years, why don't you get married?"
I asked back, "Why do you have to get married? It's just a piece of paper", and I was dumbfounded again.
The oldest woman in the audience, Mary, who was over fifty, corrected her: "You are wrong. A wedding is a piece of paper, but a marriage is not."
"Marriage is a kind of commitment, a lifelong commitment to the other half, and the two become one." Mary touched the ring on her ring finger and said with a smile: "Why do people get married? Although two people are better than one Living alone puts a lot of constraints on you, and you lose your freedom. But you also gain something that freedom can’t match.”
"For example?"
She thought for a while: "Asher, my dear, if the end of the world comes, the world is full of monsters and zombies, and everyone on the earth is dead except you two, and only Michelle is by your side, would you like For him, continue to live in that terrible world?"
I didn't answer.
If the world really becomes like that, I will definitely give up. I don't have the courage to face such a terrible world. Instead of living in secrets and hardships, it would be more refreshing to commit suicide directly.Afterwards, Mary's explanation will be remembered forever.
"I know what you're thinking, and my first reaction was also, since there are only two of us in the world, why should we still be alive? It would be fine if we committed suicide. Guess what my husband said: He yelled at me "I don't allow you to commit suicide. Even if death comes and there are only two of us left in the world, you have to work hard to live for me. For me, even if it's the end of the world, the time with you is better than death." Much, much better'…”
So, life, old age, sickness and death, poverty and wealth, these are simply too common, it should be said this way: no matter death, Cambrian coming, 2012 or the destruction of the world, after a few days, send a text message to little D and the boss, "I decided I'm going to propose to Michelle."